So anyway, yesterday I lost out on a deal worth thousands of dollars.
Only telling you this because the second emotion I felt was fear. The first was anger. I initially felt angry, I was angry because this client had backed out of a deal that, to be honest, would be lucrative for both of us. Once I had stopped beating my desk with my bloody fist I realised that beneath all of that anger I was really feeling fear.
I was afraid my other clients would follow suit. I was afraid I was turning clients off with my emails, my enthusiasm for the details of projects. And I was afraid because I thought a client was thinking ill of me.
And that, I suppose, was the crux of the matter. One of my biggest fears since childhood is that people might not like me.
I know, it is perfectly reasonable for me to expect everyone to like me.
But seriously, up until quite recently, I have consistently sought approval from everyone I know and work with, and if that approval is not immediately obvious, I have felt fear.
The fear of being disliked.
And this was affecting my happiness levels somewhat, when I would meet people who were indifferent to me, who were not falling over themselves to make friends, or who showed even mild hostlilty.
But I have been examining this block to my happiness, and I have found a new method that helps me manage my emotions. Within ten minutes, this method helped me effectively forget I had missed out on over $10,000. After those ten minutes I was back on the line, talking to clients, setting up more deals.
I will begin explaining this next post, when I talk about how to manage your emotions so that you allow more happiness into your life. We will take it step by step, and spread it out over a few posts.
So until then, stay happy...
Only telling you this because the second emotion I felt was fear. The first was anger. I initially felt angry, I was angry because this client had backed out of a deal that, to be honest, would be lucrative for both of us. Once I had stopped beating my desk with my bloody fist I realised that beneath all of that anger I was really feeling fear.
I was afraid my other clients would follow suit. I was afraid I was turning clients off with my emails, my enthusiasm for the details of projects. And I was afraid because I thought a client was thinking ill of me.
And that, I suppose, was the crux of the matter. One of my biggest fears since childhood is that people might not like me.
I know, it is perfectly reasonable for me to expect everyone to like me.
But seriously, up until quite recently, I have consistently sought approval from everyone I know and work with, and if that approval is not immediately obvious, I have felt fear.
The fear of being disliked.
And this was affecting my happiness levels somewhat, when I would meet people who were indifferent to me, who were not falling over themselves to make friends, or who showed even mild hostlilty.
But I have been examining this block to my happiness, and I have found a new method that helps me manage my emotions. Within ten minutes, this method helped me effectively forget I had missed out on over $10,000. After those ten minutes I was back on the line, talking to clients, setting up more deals.
I will begin explaining this next post, when I talk about how to manage your emotions so that you allow more happiness into your life. We will take it step by step, and spread it out over a few posts.
So until then, stay happy...
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